Salt-N-Pepa Style

We are at the point in our desire series where it is time to have "The Talk."  And hopefully this will go over a little bit better than when your parents sat you down and discussed the birds and the bees, or when you had to sit through that presentation in fifth grade when your school nurse made you watch extremely outdated and awkward videos of the male and female genitalia.

  

So, let's talk about sex shall we.  What I find most telling about this whole discussion is this: Although everyone out there is already talking about it, not to mention that they are all self proclaimed "experts" when it comes to talking about it, i.e. newspaper columnists, magazine editors, movie producers, ex-porn stars, medical professionals, etc., there seems to be more confusion and heartache and pain regarding this topic than ever before.  You would think that with so much discussion, experimentation, openness, and liberation that we would have arrived sexual; that we would have reached some sort of sexual nirvana where our sex lives just keep getting better and better and more and more fulfilling.  But you need only to look around to know that's not true.

If the truth about sex lies in our cultures' understanding of it, then why do so many people attach feelings of pain and fear to sex?  Why do so many people have to carry around with them the nightmares and pain and shame of sexual abuse?   

If the truth about sex lies within our cultures' understanding of it, then why are so many people overcome with such intense feelings of guilt and regret, or perhaps callousness and anger? 

If the truth about sex lies within our cultures' understanding of it, then why, for so many, is the marriage bed a place of frustration, emptiness and brokenness?

So when it comes to sex, I don't want to hear from the so called "experts".  I have seen and experienced first hand what their advice leads to.  What I needed long ago, and what we all need now, are fresh, liberating, and truly life transforming words on sex. 

And the truth of the matter is that God has a lot more to offer and say on this topic than most. The truth is that the more you know about and have have tasted the goodness of God, the more sacred and satisfying (not to mention God glorifying and exalting) your sex will be.

Genesis 2:25 says that, "The man and woman were both naked, and they felt no shame..." How we all long to experience this type and depth of intimacy; an intimacy without shame!  But like Adam and Eve, we are so quick to fall for and accept the cheap imitations of happiness and fulfillment, and instead, far too often we find ourselves overcome with shame and regret, in desperate search of the closest fig leaf to cover ourselves with. Whether that covering is awkwardness or fear or uncertainty, or even regret, guilt or callousness, God has the power to remove and redeem and restore, and He alone can give you the deepest desires of your heart. And yes, that is true even when it comes to talking about sex. 

Thoughts?